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‘If she survives, she will become more wise’: Afghan woman accused of stabbing daughter at Montreal home" National Post, September 25, 2012 (thanks to Norm)Marie-France Coallier/Postmedia News Johra Kaleki leaves the Montreal courthouse with her husband Ebrahim Ebrahimi Tuesday. The Dorval mother is accused of stabbing her 19-year-old daughter in a attempted honor killing.
Montreal — Her daughter was in hospital being treated for stab wounds, to the head, shoulder and arm. She herself had been arrested that morning at the family home with blood on her hands and feet and a gash on her left arm. And Johra Kaleki, facing charges of attempted murder and aggravated assault, decided she was going to disregard her lawyer’s advice and tell the story “from A to Z.”
In a video played in Quebec Court Tuesday, Ms. Kaleki told a Montreal police investigator that she had lost control on the morning of June 13, 2010, when her 19-year-old daughter Bahar Ebrahimi arrived home after a night on the town.
“I know I committed a crime, yes,” she told Sgt.-Det. Alexandre Bertrand.
But even if the law says it was wrong, she added, “For myself, I know I did the right thing.”
Under Sgt.-Det. Bertrand’s questioning, Ms. Kaleki gradually explained how the family of smiling Afghan immigrants photographed by The Gazette in 2002 clutching Canadian flags after being sworn in as citizens had come to this.
When she was a young girl, Bahar Ebrahimi was a source of pride to her parents. Others in the Afghan community marveled at what a good kid she was. “How did you do it?” they wanted to know.
Ms. Kaleki, 40, said that raising Bahar and her three younger sisters was a full-time job, and they were all the reward she needed. “People work to earn money. I work to earn them,” she said. “They’re all I have.”
She said she loves Canada and the opportunities it offers her family. But while there were no land mines or stray bullets to worry about like in her native Kabul, there were other dangers. “There are difficulties, there are temptations, there are bad things here,” she said. “It’s not like it’s heaven on Earth.”
A religious woman who married at age 17, she tried to be a role model and instill traditional values in her daughters. “It’s important to be honest, to be a good person, to raise your children the way a Muslim should live,” she said. The girls were forbidden from drinking, smoking and having boyfriends. When Bahar went off to school in the morning, her mother would check her outfits to make sure they were not “too short and skimpy.”
When I go to jail, when I spend the rest of my life in jail for this crime, I want to go as a proud, honest person, not as a coward
But when Bahar graduated from high school and began CEGEP, her behaviour changed. She began using more make-up and wearing her hair differently, her mother told the investigator. One day, a pack of cigarettes fell from her daughter’s school bag. Her mother asked to look inside the bag and was told it was none of her business.
Another time, Bahar came home drunk. “Lots of boys” were calling her cellphone, her mother said. She started staying out late and “giving me a hard time,” Ms. Kaleki said. “She was not honest.”
On the morning of the attack, a Sunday, Ms. Kaleki heard a car door slam and ran downstairs to see her husband asking Bahar where she had been. “She said, ‘I just went clubbing,’” she recounted. “I said to my husband, ‘Leave it to me.’”
Bahar was not interested in talking, but Ms. Kaleki said she had an idea what her daughter had been up to. “I think she was out there just for a stupid reason, just to go without permission and have fun. That’s all,” she said.
Sgt.-Det. Bertrand said later, “Is it that something snapped and you lost control?” She replied, “Yes, I did.”
At times during the interrogation, Ms. Kaleki broke down in sobs, begging to see her husband and children. She declared her love for Bahar, but it was more than an hour into the interrogation when she inquired about her condition: “She speaks? She talks? She’s going to be OK?” Sgt.-Det. Bertrand said Bahar was lucky to have been taken to a hospital where they “do miracles,” and she was going to survive.
Ms. Kaleki then explained why she decided to tell the detective her story. “What I don’t hide from my God, my Creator, why should I hide from you?” she said. “When I go to jail, when I spend the rest of my life in jail for this crime, I want to go as a proud, honest person, not as a coward.” She added, “The only thing I regret is I’m going to be away from my three other children, who need me the most.”